Hello warpedlogic: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

With regard to your concerns, I don't know as I would have much to offer in the way of coping strategies. To my way of thinking "coping" in a situation such as you describe simply means allowing your wife to continue to treat you the way she does & figuring out some way of putting up with it. From my perspective that is neither healthy nor sustainable. Ideally, I suppose, the two of you might see a marriage counselor. Or, assuming your wife is unwilling, you might consider seeking some individual therapy for yourself. (This, of course, may be advisable for your wife as well.)

What strikes me with regard to what you wrote is that this is a matter of boundaries. You are going to have to decide what you are & are not willing to accept, enunciate those boundaries clearly & enforce them. Otherwise, from what you wrote, it sounds as though you simply become a door mat. If you're not sure how to do this, there are good videos on YouTube related to establishing & enforcing personal boundaries. One interesting one I watched recently was a video of an interview of Brene Brown:



California therapist, Kati Morton also has some interesting videos, on her YouTube channel, regarding boundaries & handling difficult people.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!