Thanks for the link. I just had a break up with an emotionally unavailable person, and I can understand what the woman in the video was talking about when it comes to unmet needs. I can see it's not really my ex that I'm needing, but it's other needs that aren't getting met that I'm unable to fulfill. I realize I've been building up this person to be someone he is not and ignoring what I bring to the table in a relationship. It's almost like an addiction of wanting something I cannot have. She does talk a lot about parents and not getting needs met in childhood. However, I did have parents that gave me the things I want in life. The only issue I can think of offhand is that my mother often had issues dealing with her anger in the best way with me when I made mistakes growing up. So I'm still confused as to how I developed some of these patterns.