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Originally Posted by xRavenx
I'm getting tired of people in my life saying they will do something, then they will cancel plans last minute or not call me back until the end of the day. I really do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes they do have valid excuses, but since I always try to put time aside for them and rarely ever cancel, it gets frustrating. They always apologize and explain, but I feel horrible and disappointed. Plus, it breaks my trust, because when I can't reach them, I wonder: are they not going to get back to me until 10:00 at night, or will I hear from them in an hour or so? When they do get back to me, I act nice about it and accept their apology. I have a hard time with confrontation and would like to know how to approach them without being pushy or driving them away.
Can anyone relate? It makes me feel unworthy when this happens, or at the very least confused and left hanging.
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I can relate, I am obsessive about my punctuality and response times to messages or texts. I always feel let down by all but a few. I think that I have unrealistic expectations though.
Have you ever told these people what effect their actions have on you? I had to tell my wife and a few close friends a couple of years ago that it had a negative impact on me when they would not respond to texts, but I could see that they were actively on Facebook.