After 21 years of being together, my wife woke up one morning and told me she does not think that she loves me anymore. We have been in counseling for the last 6 months, but I can't tell if it is helping. She is done one week and wanting to work on it the next. The funny thing is, the more that I suffer through this the more I am starting to realize that I may be the one who is done.

I am so confused, I went from clinging for dear life, hoping and praying that she would wake up and remember that she loves me. To not being sure that I still want any of this. It is hard not blame her for the way that I feel, or not to blame my MI. I feel like a terrible person, she appears to be trying(I think) but then she will come home and tell me that she wishes she had married a doctor so that she did not have to work. Or that she does not know if she still believes in monogamy.

I don't know how long I can deal with all of this turmoil, it is really triggering for me. For those of you who are going through, or have gone trough a divorce. How did you know when it was time?