I'm logged back in since codependency was on my mind and what it means and has meant for me. I'm adding without getting into the rest of the conversation nor reading the rest of the conversation, as I'm a bit busy with something else in my personal life and had an *aha* and just wanted to mention it in terms of codep. So if this is well out of place then I apologize for that part.

Codep gets such a bad wrap because even in reading the older definitions, never mind the gunk I've seen within the past year, it delves into the word "control." and I'm typically taken aback with the notion that it's codeps doing the controlling in a relationship.

To me, it's about control in the sense of wanting some semblance of stability in a not so stable environment brought upon by the second party of the relationship.

I just didn't want anyone to feel awful about such a label because it feels akin to blame the victim, with or without victimization. That's just my opinion, of course.

The idea of rescuing is truly about trying to create stability amidst chaos.


"Interrogate your hidden assumptions."-Cornel West