I left my first h for pretty much this reason. He later admitted that he didnt like how good and confident i felt after achieving orgasm, so he purposely acted the doofus when we were together, or would walk into the room and interrupt me at the crucial time if i was alone.

I didnt know how to deal with such crazy making passive aggressiveness. And i was still in my twenties. I think i might deal with it differently now. I feel more in the drivers seat of my life now. Youve asked him; hes refused. Why not find someone else? See what else is out there. H is acting like he has nothing to lose; how do you feel?