I am afraid that she is just going trough the motions just to say that she did before she leaves. I have asked her outright if she is having an affair and she swears that she is not.

She is confusing, three weeks ago I told her that I was leaving if she did not get her own therapist and start working on her issues, she went out and got one the next day. Then when I thanked her for doing that she said it had nothing to do with my ultimatum, but in the same breath asked for some time to work her stuff out.

I was so clear as to what I wanted when i delivered the ultimatum, now I am unsure if I have it in me to try any longer.