Lifesaver54,

I have a few questions that just hit me when reading your post....things that just don't make sense to me.

You talk about all through your marriage your husband let your children disrespect you. Why in the world in the beginning didn't YOU make your children respect you? That shouldn't be your husbands job any more than it's yours & your relationship with your children.

You say they were never abused by you, you loved, supported, & encouraged.....I think you missed teaching them respect & responsibility....that is the job of both parents not just one or the other.

I am sure there is more behind your wanting to be separated that just what you say here about your husband not making your children respect you or that he yelled at you the one time...you need to look at the whole picture of your relationship. There are a lot of missing pieces in your post that I'm sure are there....but if what you posted here is the only thing that is pushing you into leaving....you need to think about yourself in terms of the relationship.

Please understand that this post is based on my opinion of what parents responsibilities are for their children & also based on what I have read here.

Debbie