I found that when I thought I had enough, all the therapy did was to verify that what I felt was right though it took me 13 years to finally get out because at that time I was financially trapped in the marriage. Couldn't even move out of the house so I moved into my own section of the house so I didn't have to be around him. One can have enough & still be stuck there. I was so thankful when I was finally able to leave. I never looked back of had any desire to be with him again even though I did give him one more chance at my own new farm on my terms