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Originally Posted by objectclient
Hello, thanks for replying. Avoidant personality disorder has been ruled out. In fact all personality disorders were. Next thing I know I've been referred for therapy where everyone has BPD and I am now being told I have BPD traits. 
I definitely think I have some kind of problem with relating to people, that's for sure. I rely on other people to give me a role/character/personality because without that I feel like I don't exist at all. I also find that I sacrifice my own likes/dislikes/thoughts/feelings/opinions whenever I'm in some kind of relationship with another person. It's like rather than meeting them in the middle, I go too far so that I lose my identity completely in the relationship, not that I ever had much of an identity in the first place!  |
My old therapist told me to write down what I know for a fact are my own traits. It could be anything, like a favorite food. Think back to things about yourself that you know have been consistent, even if you don't think they matter much. There's an underlying you, and it may take some time to discover it, but it's there!