16 years ago, therapy helped me make big changes in my life. I started college, got a part-time job, and got an apartment of my own. I was able to make acquaintances and had a lot of support.

A lot has changed since then. My T at the time transferred, had a bad T, lost my supports, locked myself in the house for 6 years, ex-T abandoned me, etc. My therapy is no longer about my past nor really about improving my life. Right now it's about learning to cope on my own, preparing to not have therapy. My goal in life used to be happiness. While I still hope for periods of happiness, my goal is to be content. As far as big changes like going back to school, getting a job, becoming a mom...those things will happen in their own time if they happen.