I think it is very sad that you think you have to behave this way toward a woman. I don't like to feel like someone is trying to own me & that is exactly what your behavior says. It may be jealousy, it may be insecurity. Whatever the personality problem is, it is to the point where you need professional help to learn how to be a true part of a relationship & not stop trying to own it & control it.

There isn't a person in the world that wants to be controlled to that point....it can only drive people away from you & I don't think that is what you want if you every truely want a permanent marriage relationship. This kind of behavior will never get you to that point. A relationship is a partnership....not someone controlling the other & owning every thing the other person does.

It sounds like you both are playing games with each other. It's a good thing that there is no child in the middle of this crazyness.

First off, if I were you, I would get professional therapy to work on your personality issues & to find out where your thinking is really coming from. Why you feel the need to control the other person?, why you feel the need to be jealous? I also think you need to work on the meaning of love because if a guy told me that he loved me & then treated me the way you do, the actions don't match the words.

Until you are able to work on yourself & fix the personality issues that you have, you aren't ready for any permanent relationship.

Please get some help,
Debbie