Well all of my close friends are online. The only one who I didn't meet online now lives in California. I know some people from a place I used to live and say hi if I see them in the store or on the street and maybe update eachother but that's about it. I don't rely on them for anything really.

With my online friends, my main concern when they don't respond to me is that they are mad at me or that I did something wrong. If they go a long time without messaging me I might be worried that they will forget me. Almost every relationship I have is full of abandonment fears-which I'm working on. I guess everyone is different but I like it much better with having closer friends on the internet and keeping my distance from people in real life.

Maybe you want to feel like you're important to someone and valued in their life. That makes complete sense because I feel the exact same way. I just find that people in real life are less able to meet that need for me than people online. I think you should explain this to your friends. Tell them that you understand they have responsibilities and stuff, but that you would really appreciate it if they could set aside some time to spend with you.