I withdrew a lot, don't get me wrong. The fastest way to curb 'intense fears of abandonment' is simply to isolate yourself from people and ensure that you don't get attached to anyone! But over time... That has gradually lessened off for me. I still don't socialise as much as other people do. I find it more stressful than most people do. I need more time by myself (where I can truely relax) than most people do. But I'm gradually getting better at reaching out and connecting to people. Gradually getting better at not doing the push-pull thing. Gradually getting better at managing my freak outs. Slowly, slowly, gently does it.