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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
You have a lot of judgment toward her being a stripper and promiscuous in her past. A lot of people don't feel there's anything wrong with that, especially when she told you that trauma caused her low self esteem and she's grown.
You say she was probably a prostitute. Are you just judging and condemning her by assuming that? Did she say she took money for sex?
If I were her I would want to find someone to be in a relationship with who didn't think I was a reminder of 'what they hate more than anything in life'. Nobody wants to be with someone who thinks they are superior to you.
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Thank you for your response. Like I said above, perhaps because I have a very conservative background and come from a conservative family. To me this maybe 10 times worse than it can be to any other man. In my eyes, it is the most degrading and vile thing anyone could ever do. This is no normal mistake, this is not normal at all. Even too many liberal people that I meet, this is the worst.
No she has never said that she has had sex for money however, she did have a relationship with a man twice almost 3 times her age whom she said thought she was in love with... From a guys perspective it is obvious that this man completely used and abused her. He gave her shelter and food just to get "one" thing in return, play... In fact this man traumatized her because of the things he used to do to her. It's very apparent that she stayed in the relationship for a while because of the shelter and food that was provided.
You're absolutely right when you say this and I feel completely guilty. I do not wish to be a reminder to her of her past. Nor do I want her to be a reminder to me of her past. I wish none of this was true or existed in my mind or thoughts. But it is completely constant and I'm trying to remove this from my heart and mind. It's difficult because I love her, she is the love of my life. I really wish that I just would have never known any of this about her. I don't know how to remove this or cleanse myself of this at all. She makes me happy and I make her happy, we truly do completing each other... But I still can't get past these thoughts...
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