Maybe it's a step-parent thing, I don't know. I was one and I sucked at it (tho not to that extent), and I have a step-dad that even now I still am uncomfortable with, and he's been around for 30+ years. I sure hope you can get the help you need now rather than having to wait so long like I did. Sorry I have no words of advice or encouragement, but I can hook you up with one of these big, cheesy smileys . Hang in there, kid. We're all pulling 4U.
KRD