Melaney, I totally understand. But also, am past that point now. I had my daughter when I was 22, which is still a little older than you started, but I did the same, watched all the young people party, having fun, etc. I also got married young to get out of the house. It was really hard watching all the people at work go out after work for happy hours, when I had to go home and pick up my daughter. I also had a super controlling and jealous husband at the time so was never able to go even if he was home to take care of our daughter. Then I was a single mom for 10 years, so then there definitely was no going out.

But, now, I am 45 years old, my daughter is in college and my husband and I get to have all kinds of fun now! Its different fun, its traveling, having nice dinners out, buying boats, or cars, or whatever! When you get older, are more financially secure, it's so much more fun to have that free time! I am still young enough now that my daughter is grown to really enjoy it!

You made a comment that you seem to think that because you have kids that you have to explain to your husband where you are going and with whom, but its not the kids, it is because you are a wife, you made a commitment to this man and he should certainly come first. It is his right as your husband to know where you are and with whom. You should always take that into consideration and try not to be bitter about that.

I am not saying that your feelings are wrong, I am simply suggesting looking at things from a different prospective, because it may change how you feel about things. Also, those little ones will grow up SO FAST, enjoy it now while you can, you cant get those days back!