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Originally Posted by Noitartst
Question is, how to restore honor? I am trying to find a way to honor it, basically, but haven't found much.
I really feel little support for my honor, and that bothers me. If others aren't willing to help me confront others I have a beef with, I sense disapproval, and that is part of it.
I approve of what I'm doing, yes, but I seem isolated, and that fills me with..misgivings, clouding my determination to move ahead, and I want to finally end them.
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that depends on ones own definition of honor. most people that I know do not ....restore....their honor. they instead move forwards in life by knowing they cant undo what had already been done all they can do is from ....this moment.... on be the kind of person they want to be.. if they want people to respect them, then they build respect in their self from the present moment on...
example if someone has done me wrong I think ok thats them this is me and i dont want to be the kind of person that lives in the past, rehashing what they did wrong to me. I want people to respect me for who i am today..do I like myself yea Ive got a great body considering I have given birth to three children and I have some wonderful qualities that if others dont want to get to know thats their problem me from this moment on i will be the kind of person I want to be. I cant control others I can only control me.
then i let the past issues drop and deal with them where I can... in therapy with my treatment providers and move on.
my suggestion is that if you are having a problem with restoring your honor then dont....restore... build your present life into the way you want to be from this moment on. you cant undo what has already happened so its up to you where you want to focus you and your life.
only you can say whether its worth it to ....restore what was in the past.... or move beyond the past and become who and what you want to be today.