This is an email I got from my girlfriends mother..... I get all the support I need from God, i'm looking for advice.... please ask questions about anything you need to know.

The email was directed at her daughter, (she sent it to me and her both)

If he feels all of this so deeply and you do too, then why do I only hear it from him and not from you, too?

He's trying to poush me emotionally and I'm not having it. :P

I am dissappointed with you only because you lack the ability to protect yourself from people like this (if he's doing it to me, then he's doing it to you). AND when other people try to help you - you act like they're the problem.

You know that you do things that you shoudn't. You know that other people are leading you away. You know what you are doing is wrong and you don't care.

These are exactly the situations that all of your books tell you not to go into and to run away from and you (smiling and acting Godly the whole time) are shutting your eyes and following anyway.

I didn't mind that you spent the extra night. If you are going to decide to do things the wrong way, like I told you before, leave me out of it. Quit calling and asking for permission to do the wrong thing. I'm not giving it.

I'm not going to fuss at you or give you a hard time. If you tell me that you are going to Faithe's and you spend the weekend with Shad - that's your deal. If you're going to be late just call and say , "I won't be home until tomorrow." You don't have to go into the whole whining thing.

Just know, once again, that it will not continue very long. Every time you do it, you are taking one more step away from this family.

I'm not mentioning it to you to fuss. I'm just wanting to make sure that I am clear and that you understand everything up front. I don't want you to be able to play around in Knoxville, then come home and say, "Oh, well. I was wrong. I think I'll go back to normal life now." That won't happen either. I don't want to watch you gently easy yourself off track, knowing that I'm not allowed to say anything.

You wouldn't let you friends do that would you? You wouldn't just watch them make the wrong decisions and sit back and watch? Well, I guess you might. You don't seem to be standing up to anyone or any thing.

I'm sending this to Shad, too, since he seems to think that his place is between us (like he's mentioned in his E-mails).

It's not his fault or his problem. It's yours. Quit passing the buck and accept some responsibility for yourself. If you're gonna be adult then act like it. Quit whining. Stop making excuses for your bad behavior and just admit it.

Saying, "I have decided to go off on weekends and spend the night with a bunch of people who don't even know God and could care less if they did. They live however they want to and ignore God in their lives and I think that's just fine," is better than what you are doing because at least you are being honest with yourself and not saying to yourself (in a whiny voice) "Well, I guess it's all right."

Give me a break, BOTH OF YOU.

(tiring of the games and deciding to be direct) Shad, all this psycho - babbling you are doing - it's nothing but babbling trying to sound like you know what you're talking about. You've taken nothing to heart and you are using Jessica and luring her in by talking about God. It's fake. It's obvious to everyone but Jessica and that's not because she's a nice person or real loving or trusting or anything like that - it's only because she wants to go off and do all of these things that sh'e not supposed to do and she's using you as an excuse - to herself - to justify the things she's doing. Once she's tired of it - she'll be gone and more on. If you don't get tired of the game of trying to control her first. You are both using each other for your own personal, selfish things and it's pathetic. It has nothing to do with love. Grow up a little - get your head out of the movies. Life is not a romantic Anamie.

(she sighs) I'm sorry I ever gave you the book. Looks like you are one of the % who just takes the info and uses it to control people.

(quite disappointed and tired of the drama) No more E-mails Shad. Jessica, I don't know what else to tell you except that we won't be having this conversation again. You have to live with your own decisions, I don't.

Thanks for listening.