From what you have described I see your wife as controlling and abusive. I am particularly struck by the way she demand that you separate from your friends, and how she objects to you exercising the most basic freedoms to make your own choices. You are an accomodating guy and so you don't want to argue with her about each situation, but the result of that is to allow her to control pretty much every aspect of your life. Is that what you want? Is that healthy for your son to observe? I wonder if, in your childhood, adults in the house were so unpleasant when they did not get their way that you learned not to express your own views and to go along with pretty much anything they wanted.

You might want to look into websites that discuss abusive wives, such as:

10 Run-As-Fast-As-You-Can Signs Of An Abusive Relationship | YourTango

https://shrink4men.wordpress.com/200...otional-bully/

I agree with Skeezyks: Have you thought about discussing your marriage with a therapist? I think you would find value in that, but you would need to anticipate that your wife will be violently opposed to you having contact with anyone outside of her control. Marriage counseling would be helpful if she would go and take it seriously, but I am skeptical that she would. I would favor individual counseling, with the idea of figuring out how you ended up in this situation and helping you learn how to establish and maintain boundaries.