Hide and lock away the guns, that calms at least one of your fears.


"What do you do to tell yourself that they are still the same person?"


Well simply put, they are not. Accepting that is much easier and simpler than pretending otherwise. For me at least.


My mom "disappeared" a while after she started chemo... This is not about me so I wont go into details, but that woman in the next room is not the mother I grew up with.


I accept that she has cancer, that dementia is now here and no longer approaching steadily.... And as difficult as it is at times, I still love her, even though I don't recognize her anymore.


There's no step by step manual for people in our shoes. We just have to take each day as it comes, be kind to ourselves and remember to breath.