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I seem to have this problem and don't know how to rectify it.
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I agree with Alison that you learned these habits in your childhood, by the way you were treated then. One way that you can unlearn them is through therapy.
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Other times when it comes to social situations, I feel like people mistake my shyness or anxiety about taking the initiative first for me not wanting to talk to anyone or appearing off and just different.
As I probably mentioned before in other threads, I feel like I bother people when I take the initiative to talk to others so I just keep to myself and if someone really does want to talk to me, I'm there ready to talk. Feel like it is safer that way. But I get the sense that I give off the wrong impression that I don't want to talk to anyone even though I still appear upbeat and just overall ready to meet someone, rather than awkwardly standing in a corner with my arms crossed.
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I agree with this. If someone is not socializing at a social event, people are much more likely to read that as "I want to be left alone/I don't want to speak" rather than "Because of my childhood it feels unsafe and bothersome to speak first but really I would love to speak with you."