jpb4815,

Is she going to T herself or just the couples Therapist? I imagine she's planing on leaving as the kids plan to stay with you? She maybe needs a break from her life. She may feel stuck. It may have nothing to do with you in IP, just sucky timing. There's support here on PC as well as the BP board there's a divorce and separation board. I would be very wary of telling anyone in real life until you figure out the logistics but then again I am a very private person. The one person I talk to (besides PC) when I want a divorce is T. No one else in our families/friends knows how close to divorce we have come. It would be nice to have extra support but it's not worth creating animosity between him and my friends/family.