Could you prepare it, in written form, and give it to her to read or something while you're in the room? It saves the discomfort of speech and doesn't give time. Also, I'm actually kinda impressed with your gall. I was super embarrassed when I admitted to my therapist that I 'd read one of his papers. I could never drop hints that I know a details about other parts of his life.

My first therapist was very bizarre when it came to self-disclosure. She repeatedly told me in her first session that it wasn't about her and I shouldn't be asking her things (I was at that point unfamiliar with therapy and it's in my nature to ask questions). When I checked back at her directory page a couple of weeks ago she's written a bunch of stuff about infertility and her new house, which was a little odd, given her 'no self-disclosure whatsoever' attitude at the beginning. But she didn't really pique my interest.

My second one - I didn't ask anything because the first had trained me out of it - but I told him after I looked him up, and he didn't seem too disturbed by it. If he is away for a short while, he will tell me where. He says "we" when he goes away, and I never push him for who the "we" is because that's his business. We both know that I probably know though.