Avaa:

I can relate to your post. I was abandoned by my mother at age 4. Didn't see her again until I was 8 and then I suffered physical and mental abuse from her until I moved out at 16. I only lived with her for three years, from age 13-16, anyway, I lived with my dad who was involved with my first stepmom when I was 4 until I was 12 and she was very distant. She had two children of her own and they always got special treatment and we got very little. My second step-mother entered the picture at age 14 and she was nice and okay and tried to be my friend but then she hated me because "I looked like my mother". So..what can you do? I looked sort of like a person that I hate and wish wasn't my mother, so punish me some more why don't ya.

So, I was petrified when I had my first child. I had no idea how to mother. Really. I'm learning as I go still, but my kids are great. I have three. Ages 11,8 and 6. They are all great spoiled rotten well-adjusted HAPPY children, and boy is that a switch from what I was at their ages! It's just pretty much I take the things that were taught to me as a child and I do the opposite. I believe Candy said it. I agree with her. Also , don't repeat the mistakes your parents made by making comments. Children deserve doting and love and affection and the priviledge of trusting the adults around them, the ones they love the most.

Just my two cents.
I think you don't have to worry about it.

Take Care,
Kimberly.