Violence is violence, it already has a definition. Just because you've been desensitized to it, that doesn't mean it isn't violence. But no, not all porn is violent.

But what about rape, or murder ...which is socially acceptable to watch on TV... doesn't that sound a little sick to you? Why is it OK to show rape or murder on TV, when it's something - I hope - we would agree is wrong in real life? What part of us is that trying to appeal to exactly? Do you not think that being exposed to that kind of thing influences your thinking?

Also, we can judge people, as we all do (including yourself). This idea that we shouldn't pass judgement on people is a bit childish to me. It's like someone saying "hey... I'm going to do whatever I want regardless of whether it's socially acceptable or not, and if you judge me then you're a bad person". Or... "Oh, I cheated on my boyfriend with 3 other guys, but don't judge me because I'm bipolar and I was manic at the time". That's not helpful at all. And this kind of thinking is why we now live in a society where many don't have morals, values, a sense of self. It's all about me, what I want and how I can get it. And I personally think that's just going to make people even more sick.