Hazn,
In your first post you stated "Violence is violence....& I'm desensitized to it."

This I have a problem with Bec I'm not sure of your definition of violence in relation to the OP.
Violence that results in a crime I understand. Very well. I am NOT desensitized to it.
If you are speaking of violence in porn I'm also confused.
When porn is viewed, as with many others, it's viewed in 2D. I am not standing there, nor do I know what happens before the camera turns on. Is this a prearranged scene? Are these people getting paid to "act." Are these professionals? Amateurs? A home made production? Is there a verbal or written agreement beforehand? I don't know. I also don't know what happens after the camera is turned off. I don't jump to conclusions.

As far as what is broadcast on network tv I would think that would be in the hands of the producers & marketers. What will the market accept? What will the market bear? Again I think that's in the hands of the executives knowing that people have the power to turn that subject off. Just like porn.

The analogy of "I cheated on my boyfriend with 3 guys & don't blame me Bec I was manic.." In my humble opinion is a blanket judgement. Childish? Maybe.
But I don't know the background of this person. I don't know the details, the why questions are not answered & I just don't have enough information to say...yup, you're wrong!
Yes, society would state that hearing this info would conclude that this is a bad person.

I don't like to make fast judgement calls, there's too much gray area.
I try hard now not to practice black & white thinking.

You say that the way I choose to live my life is up to me & yes that is true. But you also say that it doesn't concern you when actually...it does.
Because In the next breath you ask how this may shape a person or what it might say about the person engaging in them. Ummmm hello?
Do you honestly wanto know why I practice BDSM? I don't think so, Bec the next line you state I'm not allowed to say ..."it's a preference." That's too simple. But I guess you already knew that.
If you'd really like to know why I entered into the world of BDSM & made it my home, you or anyone can pm me & I'll answer your questions in great detail. BUT, my answers, I'm sure, are totally different from the next person you ask.

I think this is why I'm taking offense to this. You state in the next post you speak in generalizations. Yes, but porn is such a vast space to make generalizations about. There's so many different avenues & most here, are lumping porn into the "it's bad" category when what most are doing are clicking a button & viewing it.
I'm saying that there are people out there that have many many different tastes & fetishes. I do not understand them all, but I don't turn my nose up & say wow you're gross for liking that or that is disgusting! I'm trying to learn about the inner workings of a person & what has created this. What do most people generalize as their answer in porn being violent?
"Well they're doing this Bec of their abusive past or MH issues." Yes this may be this case for some, I agree, but I am guessing not for all.

In June 2012, the author P. D. James was making 1.34 million a wk in book sales. Some would call her trilogy soft, fluff erotica & it was somewhat trashed in the BDSM community Bec of its many inaccuracies. But there was a reason for these sales.
People are curious. Is it something the market could bare? Obviously. Was it considered violent??? There's that question again.
I guess that depends on the person reading it.
Everyone has a different perspective & I want them to have it. Not shame them for having it.