violence - behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.

Also, I didn't mean you personally as I can't possibly know what your sexual preferences are. That's my mistake for using "you're". Apologies for that.

OK you might not be engaging in it yourself, but do you think it will have an influence on you? Let me give you an example. Child pornography is illegal, and rightly so (I hope we can both agree on that). It's wrong. But what about watching Anime child pornography? Since it's not real, is that OK? And, more importantly, do you not think that watching such content is going to have an influence on your sexual preferences?

I'm not asking what the market thinks. I'm asking what you think.

I'm not making fast judgements, but sure I am making judgements. We make judgements every single day based on our interactions with people. You yourself have made some judgements about me. That's normal, I don't have a problem with that. I don't like it when people use the whole "don't judge me" line in order to make out that someone is a bad person. That statement is a judgement in itself. Anyway, I hope we can move past this whole judgement thing... it's really not what this thread is about and as far as I can tell, there's not as much judgement going on as you're suggesting. Did anyone say you're disgusting?

OP has concerns about pornography and the impact it has on people and their relationships... and as far as I can tell its a valid concern. But it seems like others here are trying to invalidate how she feels about it.

I wouldn't be OK with my partner watching pornography, but that's me. Is that right or wrong? No, but it's something many people would agree with me on. And of course, many would disagree. There are people on this forum who are OK with their partners sleeping with others and keeping things open... does that mean I have to be also? No.

The question I'm asking is, is the behavior helpful, is it healthy. We would all agree that having high self-esteem is healthy. We all would agree that having self-respect is healthy. Is having your partner call you dirty names in bed going to increase your self-esteem and self-respect, or decrease it? I'm not saying you do these things, it's just an example. What we watch influences who we become and how we think. As does how we behave. And I'm asking a question, what do YOU think?

Absolutely everyone has a different perspective, and OP has expressed hers... nothing wrong with that.