McKell,

Maybe you're not a blockhead but just blocked?

As sky said, it takes time to build a trusting relationship. Allow yourself the time to feel safe and secure in T's presence. It's only when you feel really, really safe that you can begin to disclose those things that are deep in your heart. It took me a really long time to begin to feel safe with T. I mean I have been with him a little over a year and now I feel close but yikes there were times over this year when I couldn't say a word!

Peace