I know I've definitely been blamed and my response to that is it takes what it takes to recover. You also learn who to talk to and who not to talk to.
I think that is why a mental health professional can be so helpful. Sometimes talking to the wrong person can victimize a person all over again, especially if the abuse takes place within a family or community and people know both parties. I think one of the most shaming and harmful things to victims is when people have to "be fair to both parties". That is especially damaging in case of narcissistic abuse where that is part of the damage that is done already. I think the best places to go for help are anonymous groups and therapy.