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Originally Posted by Skeezyks
Yes, I think I have some experience of this. And I know my wife used to experience it a lot as a woman executive. I recall her saying numerous times that she would say something in a meeting & it would be ignored. But, then, if one of the men, or even one of the other women who were more "popular", brought up the same idea, suddenly it was GREAT! 
I guess I don't really know anything about the dynamics of this.  I have sometimes thought perhaps there's an underlying popularity factor at work. It may not even be evident to the people who are being influenced by it. But if someone they like says something, or does something, the fact that that person is popular gives added weight to what they say or do. If someone is not popular... not in with the "in crowd", so to speak, then what they've said or done has less value. At least that is my theory...  |
I totally agree, that is exactly what I experience. I think I am considered not as popular by others so if I say something or do something, it is looked down upon, but if someone else does or says the same thing, it is considered a brilliant idea. Like the examples I gave, if I had something to say or a joke to make, usually someone, or even the whole group, would tell me to never say whatever I said again. But then someone else would say it and it would be hilarious or just something awesome.
Same for helping people, when other Orientation Leaders were using an unused cart that was just sitting in a hall, it was considered a brilliant idea and the person using it even got praised by the idea. So of course since I actually agreed, the next time I saw it just sitting there unused, I took it in order to help someone move big heavy stuff in. While I was walking with it, the other OL's looked at me weird and a couple of them even asked why I was using that and found it weird. So I agree, there is something about being popular that makes something someone said or did awesome towards one person, while extremely stupid towards another.