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Originally Posted by tiger8
Thanks!
What are these deal breakers?
What is this needs scale?
I don't find the five love languages all-encompassing enough but I can't put it into words what else may be there other than those five ones.
I also can't yet put into words what I was specifically thinking of with the emotional compatibility. But it's to do with those love languages (beyond those five ones), I think...?
Maybe if you write more about the needs scale or deal breakers or something I'll be able to identify this.
Sorry for sounding so vague. I'm just trying to figure out what was going wrong in my relationship before.
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I forget specifically which site that I had discovered a needs list, I'm positive it was under one that specifically addresses marriages. Needs are relationship needs. Things such as to be valued, to be heard, to be understood(or sincerely attempted to understand), financial compatibility, intimacy(separate from sexual intimacy), companionship, and the list went on. It was about 2 pages. I printed it and stuck it in a journal. My T, at the time, suggested understanding my needs before embarking on another relationship, post-divorce.
Hope that clarifies?
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