Thanks for the response
Well when we talked a few weeks or so later she told me that she wasn't going to walk on eggshells anymore because it was to hard on her, that she was going to be a "******"
I can't even make this up.
She doesn't think she's being mean, she thinks she's completely justified in whatever she says. But compared to my sister (yeah we married brothers lol) I have it great. She is awful to my poor sister.
She knows our life, my sister and I had a bit of a rough childhood. But I think she believes we held her sons back. Because her third son now has a career and is buying a house, he finished college, he's married to a nice girl with no baggage.
We have a lot of financial problems, which she has no problem chiming in about, we just don't do things the way she thinks they should be done (super controlling) so we are obviously wrong. And if we are wrong, we need to do it her way, if we dont, well... yeah.

My husband tried to stay neutral, he doesn't agree with most things his mom does or says but, thats not how she used to be. She used to be sweet, compassionate, and loving. I seen it myself. It's like she snapped or something, idk. Or maybe I was blind. So he listenes when I'm upset, realizes that there's a problem, but doesnt want to make it worse by going to her or his dad. Which, I mean, I can't blame him.

He's pretty good at supporting me when I need him. He's always here for me.
And yeah its not a bad idea for me to get out every Tuesday for shoping, in fact, I really like the sound of that lol
Thanks so much!!!!