Yes that is the perfect idea. I'm seriously going to work very hard at doing that with her. I know I fail at this with her all the time. I start off being a really good listener but then the stuff she tells me just becomes overwhelming. Then I start asking why the guy isn't working? Why is she supporting him? Why isn't she planning better and saving her money? So I guess to her it is an interrogation. I just don't understand why she would want to live the way she does with a guy who doesn't even respect her. And the whole living together for free at his parents house is something I have never agreed with. She knows I've always raised her to work hard, treat people with respect, and pay her own way. Once she met this guy at the University she changed so much for the worst. I continue to remind myself that I am powerless over her but it is still hard to deal with.