I need some advice on how to work on managing jealousy I have towards my boyfriend.

We have been together for almost 4 years and I have basically always felt the same way about him going out.

For background, he is a very extroverted person, very spontaneous and has a lot of different groups of friends and is very social and makes friends easily. I , on the other hand, have a handful of close friends, most of who do not live in the same city of me. Also, my job does not allow me to make close friendships with colleagues.

It is not uncommon for us to be sitting at home on a sat night and 11 pm rolls around and he tells me "i'm going to meet so and so or a group of people at the bar" then that turns into an after party and coming home at 4-5 am. This infuriates me.

I've tried to analyze this and I am jealous of the amount of friends he has and the endless invites to go out. I like to go out to, but have NO ONE to go out with. I wish i had those opportunities, but I dont. The two close friends i have in the city a) have kids or b) is more of a home body.

It honestly drives me mad that i am home, alone, again, on a friday or saturday night. And worse, I get very ****** with him before he goes out which just provokes him to stay out later to avoid my nagging. It is always a lose lose situation, yet, I have never been able to control them in an effective manner.

I know that i should build up my friend circle, and go out more myself. But I just feel stuck.