I'm sorry that this is such a struggle.

I find it kind of odd that both of those people that you saw were so quick to turn down your request. I know that doctor's can be wary of patients seeking ADHD medication because of its frequent abuse. However, this seemed like extreme reactions. You were just asking for a letter indicating your need of accommodations, correct? Not medication?

I am wondering - is there any way you could get in touch with whatever practice/doctor diagnosed your children? Even if that doctor is no longer your family's doctor, he/she might be abe to refer you to a collegue or something who might be more open to discussing options with you.

One thing though. A licensed therapist or a psychiatrist could diagnose your condition but may only suggest appropriate accommodations for you to bring to your employer (rather than write up an official letter requesting accommodations on your behalf). In my experience, those types of proffesionals don't carry a lot of weight when it comes to "official documentation of accommodations", unless they administer in-depth diagnostic testing and will issue a full report of results (usually multiple pages of test results). These kinds of in-depth assessments are typically performed by neurologists and neuropsychologists (which might be why the psychiatrist referred you for neurological testing). On reports, there is usually a section where the professional goes into detail with suggestions that might be a more acceptable form of official documentation.