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Originally Posted by tiger8
That makes sense, I think. Now what I'm not sure about is, what does it depend on if it can feel like that way?
To make this clearer... I know what this is like in a friendship. But, when I was going out with a guy for a while (a year or so), it was not there. This was a while ago and it was pretty new stuff to me so I didn't really know how to put into words what was wrong or why, I just knew it was wrong. Then, I broke up with him, later we were able to be friends and there I had no problem with feeling like we were a team with stuff and we really were. Why the difference??!
What is less obvious to me is the emotional compatibility thing...  |
Sometimes once the pressure of being a "couple" is released, that friendship base becomes obvious. I have come to realize that, that is where the old cliche of being friends first comes from. So often men and women put so much at stake in being a couple, the friendship becomes misplaced.
This aspect might tie into emotional compatibility? Can they hear it in your voice or see it in your face, if you're having a bad day or something is wrong? Is there sensitivity to that?
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