i'm a male in my mid thirties who's been dealing with depression for many years. i haven't had an SO since high school, and i have very little experience with dating.

[short version - i met a woman in may, hung out with her pretty regularly, but never made a move. could never identify the right "when" and "how". is there any hope to save this thing?]

by complete luck, i managed to meet a pretty great girl back in may. we connected well, stayed in very regular contact (via text however), and spent time together regularly doing things such as going for walks/hikes with her dog, going out to eat, out for drinks, hanging at her place just eating/talking/watching tv etc.. this was something i hadn't experienced with another person in a very, very long time. i actually couldn't believe it was happening, and quite frankly, it scared the ***** out of me. but, i was trying to roll with it, hoping it could be a sign of an actual positive change for me.

so while it was going well, and she must have been at least somewhat in to me, i was always way too nervous and unsure to make a move. we hug goodbye, but that's it. for weeks (or months), i'd be driving home after those hugs kicking myself for not sucking it up and going for more.

now, for the last couple of weeks, things seem to have changed.. it seems like she's pulling away. the text frequency has dropped, and while i saw her last weekend (dinner at a bar, ice cream, movie and i STILL didn't do anything..), she "couldn't make it" when i asked if she wanted to get together again later in the week. granted, she actually was going out of town for a long weekend, but it just doesn't feel good.. it's feeling like she's at least starting to move on. we've had a couple of good text exchanges lately, but it's not what it was.

the other day, i told asked her if we could get together when she got home to discuss some things. she said yes. so, it seems like it's now or never time.

is there any hope to salvage this thing, or did i blow it? i'm thinking it's too late. and when this get together comes up, i'll be even more nervous and awkward given the circumstances, so i have no idea how to say what i want to say - or show what i want to show.

ugh.

thanks for any insights