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Originally Posted by Talthybius
The problem is you letting her string you along. Are you sure you act your age compared to her? Seems like you act weak.
You can decide if you want to be with her if she is willing to cheat on her BF. If you are, keep seeing her and make sure she knows you want to see her romantically. Just know that if she cheats on her BF, she will cheat on you.
If you don't want to be with a girl that is in a relationship, tell her to contact you once she is available. Then don't contact her. If she contacts you, ask her if she is single. If not, end the conversation politely.
I don't know her being somewhat of a drama queen, her mistreating her BF, and her walking all over you fit in with your '99% compatible' number. You sure you factored all that in? Never mind the age difference, which may create problems, if not be it what others think or how it is secretly something both of you aren't completely comfortable with.
I lost my mind over a 21 year old girl when I was 17. I lost my mind over a 19 year old girl when I was 32. I know what it is. At least in my case, I know they both are/were honest and good for me. With all that you say, I am not so sure about that.
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Everything you say is true. Since we are on psych central, I'm not gonna lie, I have big issues when it comes to relationships. I generally don't trust anyone, but when I do I let my guard down and give them everything, and that's what I did with this girl.
As I said, I was in a pretty bad relationship before (and my ex gf DID walk all over me for 3 years), and most of all I was alone in a foreign country. This 20 year old girl was really close to me in through this bad patch. I don't really know her motives, I just know she was sending messages, pictures, videos, skype calls non-stop. When I came back she insisted on coming to the airport to pick me up.
Yeah I was weak, because she is beautiful, she seems able to read my mind, that's why I said we are 99% compatible. And, I'm not gonna lie, she makes me feel young again. I know she is mistreating her boyfriend, but that's exactly what I did with my ex gf, once this 20 year old one started chasing me. I was texting her and looking at her pics while I was out with my ex (things were already going south tho).
I don't know if I'm comfortable with the age difference. I just know that I'm trying to do the "right thing" telling her not to call me anymore, because I'm older and she has a boyfriend. I wouldn't call her a drama queen, she cried in front of me just because we were at my place when I told her not to call me anymore. I know it's the adult thing to do, but it's killing me.