This is a spin off another thread where a person was discussing the end of a friendship so I decided to start an independent thread on no contact.

As people with BPD or BPD traits I believe we are especially vulnerable to narcissistic, sociopathic or psychopathic abuse. Even though we may also possess some NPD traits ourselves it doesn't mean we can't be hurt by others with NPD or NPD traits.

No contact is tricky especially when its within the family of origin or a child is involved.

In my case no contact is an on and off button I use as needed. Going no contact with my ex is not an option at this point as I have an open child support case and I allow him visitation. I have custody.

With my family of origin its a little more complicated as my brother and I currently have an inheritance lawsuit and my father is involved, although not as a client.

My brother has been very abusive to me in the past and I am weary of him however I have to deal with him on a "light, bright and polite" level due to the inheritance lawsuit.

The only person I can really go NC with is my mother, but she sent me some money and presents for my birthday so I still have to thank her for those.

In my case I don't initiate contact with my ex or my FOO. I learned the hard way not to try to see my parents as they are very self centered and self absorbed and I always end up getting hurt and disappointed.

Since I can't count NC time I have to go low contact.

I'm working on grey rock, which is being nonreactive, but as a person with BPD traits, that is especially hard.

Can anyone relate?