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Originally Posted by Rose76
If she wants to support a gigolo, that's her business. You don't really have to step back or withdraw from her. You don't have to pretend to like this guy either. Just stop telling her what you think he should be doing. That's not for you to figure out. Be polite toward him. That's all you owe your daughter.
Don't, in any way, enable the situation . . . like by giving her money. Invite her for Sunday dinner now and then. If she brings the boyfriend, feed him too. Expect that he acts courteously toward you and expect nothing more. Don't ask what he's done about finding a job. That's his business. If he's sponging off your daughter, that's her business.
In your situation, my fervent prayer would be simply, "Dear Lord, please let her not get pregnant anytime soon." Hopefully, before that happens, she will get sick of this guy leeching off her. When she complains to you about this guy, you might say: "Sweetheart, I agree with you that he's not a good catch. I happen to think you could do better for yourself. But, if you want to hang on to him, that's up to you."
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Thank you so much! There is so much more to the story between my daughter and this guy. But you are exactly correct, I need to stop telling her what I think she should do or what the guy should be doing. I know it's really none of my business. It just frustrates me. And I do pray very hard that she doesn't end up pregnant. She is taking birth control pills and I do check with her to make sure she buys them and takes them. That IS something I would give her money for if needed.