There's a huge dynamic between my mother and the reasons I have similar issues. Don't girls eventually grow up to be their mothers?

There is so much good in her and as long as I did everything she demanded, she was my best friend. So I tried to do everything she wanted and didn't do what she didn't approve of. Unfortunately, living the life she wanted for me has not made me happy and this is 99% of my problem.

I'm really angry to finally see her for the user that she really is, and she is coming to a very bad end. My heart breaks for her, but not at the cost of my own life. She is going to try to suck the life out of me for her own security and I am not going to let her. Sadly, the NC is inevitable here, too.