She and I have discussed how the things she tells me about him and his family does paint a poisoness picture in my mind. So I actually asked them to dinner and I spent some time with the two of them at the first apartment they had together. Then when they lost that apartment and moved in with his parents I actually went there and met his parents and again we had dinner together. All the times I've been in the presence of the two of them he speaks to my daughter was much disrespect. During one of these occassions he was very disrespectful to my daughter out in public and I could see that she was embarrassed. I couldn't hold my tongue. I had to tell him that I did not appreciate how he treats her and then I turned to her and told her that she should never allow anyone to degrade her in such a manner. As a result he banned me from coming to their home. I'm not allowed to go there to see my daughter and he rarely brings her to see me. Of course I've offered to pick her up. It is over an hour away from my home but she declines because she doesn't want me "causing trouble". So now I get to see her when my other daughter is able to go pick her up. So you see despite the things she was telling me I wanted to go out on the limb so to speak and try to see things for myself. I know there are always two sides to every story. But this guy has proved over and over that he is just a manipulative, abusive dirt bag. I pray for the day when she realizes it and gets away from him.

I discuss pregnancy with her even though she doesn't want to hear it from me. I had her when I was 22 which is her age now so I hope she doesn't do what I did. She's certainly not ready.

Unfortunately there isn't any other trusted adult in her life that could help me. The power of prayer is all that I have.