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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
What you described was in no way bothersome. It is reasonable to want to have human contact. You did the right thing re-assuring the guy from your group that you received his materials in the mail. You might try liking some Facebook pages related to hiking and/or writing; then you will develop a circle of Facebook friends who likely will appreciate your photos and comments. Your cousin wasn't being very nice. I often see people lament that they sought attention--it is natural and normal to want attention; good friendships are based on positive healthy exchanges of attention and care for others. I encourage you to keep doing what you are doing and tell your cousin to 'be nice'  |
But if I deserved attention, wouldn't people give it to me? That's what the nuns say anyway. They say if no one wants to talk to me, then I need to stop bothering them with request.
After all, if my brother wanted to talk to me, he would have answered the phone. It's been 5 days and he still hasn't returned my call. That means he doesn't want to talk to me, so I should not have bothered him.
I've tried several writing groups and only found one that will tolerate me so far. I knew I shouldn't have gone to the Saturday one and afterwards Shannon stopped me to remind me that they "don't welcome fringe elements" and seemed irritated that Steve and I knew each other and had met outside her group. It was the same with the hiking group; I was invited to stop attending.
I'm not the kind of person who will ever have friends, so I need to learn to stop bothering people and be content with my own company. How do you do that? How do you manage to control your attention seeking behavior?