Hello iliketherain: Well... from the Skeezyks perspective... everyone has their own needs when it comes to affection, intimacy & sex. I doubt it is possible to know for certain what is going on with your ex. Perhaps he doesn't really even know himself. I think the key here is open communication between the two of you with regard to what feel each of you needs; and then a willingness on the part of each to compromise. But, then, that's really the key to any long-term relationship, isn't it? Communication & compromise...