Hello dcm029: I'm sorry to say, from my perspective, there's really nothing you can do with regard to your father's situation. He's an adult many times over. And, from what you wrote, it sounds as though he's facing some serious medical issues. Perhaps he has given up on himself. But that's really his choice... his call. What you can do is to be there for him as much as possible & to provide emotional support to both your parents.

However, as you are clearly aware, your father's situation is affecting you as well. So you have to take care of yourself, first-&-foremost. This may involve figuring out some ways of not spending so much time around him. You may also want to consider seeing a counselor of therapist so that you have someone with whom you can process the impact your father's condition is having on you.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!