It sounds to me like you two have two different fighting styles. She gets heated and can't control her emotions where as you put your head in the sand. As a matter of fact, this is just like my relationship. I want to get it out right away and let it be known that I'm mad. And that's not always good. I often jump to conclusions in my anger and make the fight worse. Whereas my bf just stays quiet and usually doesn't even tell me he's mad at all. I hate it. I think you should consider counseling where you can have a mediator between you two. Then when she gets upset tell her you'll discuss it in therapy when you are ready. I think it's smart of you to take your time and think the situation out. You just found someone that likes the dramatics of an argument. She might possibly be wanting your attention. At least thats how I feel when I'm mad. I want to be heard and heard RIGHT NOW. I need the spotlight. It's bad and it's something I plan to work on in therapy and I really think it has to do with my BPD and impulsiveness.

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