I'm curious as to what others' experiences have been.

My current therapist hasn't had to be strict because I'M super careful. My first therapist told me I was in love with him (I wasn't), and it created all kinds of issues with my trust in therapy relationships. Because of past experiences, I'm now hypersensitive about boundaries. I don't email or call my therapist. I don't ask about his family. I don't say hi if I pass him in the parking lot because it's outside my paid time. I don't request or initiate physical contact.

(The same cause for my hypervigilance about boundaries causes other issues like not feeling safe in that relationship, but that's a different subject.)

My experience has been hypervigilance, so I'm curious what others have experienced.