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Old Aug 22, 2016, 11:08 PM
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Originally Posted by RxQueen875 View Post
It sounds to me like you two have two different fighting styles. She gets heated and can't control her emotions where as you put your head in the sand. As a matter of fact, this is just like my relationship. I want to get it out right away and let it be known that I'm mad. And that's not always good. I often jump to conclusions in my anger and make the fight worse.
^^^^ This.

When I was younger I also wanted to talk things out/settle an argument as soon as I became upset. I couldn't let it go and that was problematic for my relationships. I am older and wiser now and although I am not in a romantic relationship anymore I have learned as a parent that sometimes waiting to discuss a problem is more effective.

Technically I am not certain if what you describe is abuse but nevertheless it is unhealthy and unproductive. I hope your partner can learn how to discuss problems in a healthier way more quickly than I did.
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Thanks for this!
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