Sister, yes I agree, especially about not being able to establish boundaries between me and the world..

Sunrise, Mmm, I don't see how setting boundaries equates to being or not being laid back. I'm not attacking T as a person, I was challenging her boundarys.. I've never felt T to be uptight, infact her inner calm helps me immensly, but she doesn't fall over herself to "prove" shes laid back??.. I think being laid back equates more to being able to be firm and not to feel afraid of that?? its who they are not what they do that shines through, don't you agree? Though I often wish she would just kick of her shoes and share the pipe LOL, thats not why I;m there..and I have friends in my life to do that with..I have tasted more relaxed therapy before this T and I had to call it quits as we weren't getting very far other than she shared her poetry with me and I was more worried about how amused I could keep her each session as she told me many times she really enjoys our friday mornings..I thought taht wonderful at first, until the fear inside got louder and louder that maybe one day she won't enjoy our friday mornings. Thats when I realised I needed someone that was clear in who they were and what we were doing..